Relationship Roundup

Elevate your relationship game with the tips and insights in this week’s Roundup, including how to rally your worldwide network, the art of negotiation, and a new app to help managers give credit where it is due.

Using the multiplier effect – Learn how to maximize your social media conversations in this Word of Mouth blog. Read it here: http://bit.ly/SUEax5.

Rallying your network – Our networks are getting more geographically dispersed but technology is offering new ways to rally the troops. Read the fine points of connecting the dots with a LinkedIn group here: http://bit.ly/NouHuv.

The art of negotiation – This article outlines a more generous, transparent, and authentic roadmap for negotiating. Read the CBSMoneyWatch article here: http://cbsn.ws/RMjyA2.

Empowering language – One of the things that will make you a relationship magnet is being aware of your use of language and its effect on the people you connect with. Culture strategist Chris Edmonds shares the power in “do” messages. Read his SmartBrief blog  here: http://bit.ly/QKjCpA.

Give generous props – A new application aims to help managers track projects and identify opportunities for recognizing employee accomplishments. Read about it in this Springwise article: http://bit.ly/QRsu7t

Kibibi Springs is myGreenlight’s Community Director.

The Secret Formula That Will Score You a Meeting with ANY VIP – from Christine Comaford

During her Social Capitalist Interview, multi-hyphenate Christine Comaford (author, entrepreneur, consultant, coach…) shared the secrets from her blog post titled: “I Stalked Steve Jobs and How to Get a Meeting with Any VIP.”

Christine says:

“It’s not that hard to get a meeting with any VIP. The quick recipe is to ask for five minutes of their time in exchange for you giving five hours to their favorite nonprofit.

So you’ve got to do some homework. When you first connect with them, send a letter. I prefer a letter that’s typed and sent via FedEx. One of my clients, a huge high-level executive at Deloitte just used this approach. He finally got through to someone he’s been trying to reach for three months.

You figure out what it is that you want: I want five minutes of advice from Joe Blow. So then you send a letter, one page or less. Don’t ramble on. Just say, ‘Wow, I really admire the accomplishments that you’ve made, Joe Blow, in your life. I want to do that too. I would love to ask you for five minutes of advice.’ Continue reading

Christine Comaford’s Mindset Adjustment to Instantly Relate as an Equal to Anyone

Christine Comaford has one of the most fascinating bios you will ever see. She is a five-time CEO, venture capitalist, Buddhist monk, and best-selling author, just to name a few of her accomplishments. Christine joined Tahl Raz, co-author of Never Eat Alone, in a fascinating Social Capitalist Interview where she shared this simple shift in mindset that will make you feel more equal with even the most powerful potential contact.

Christine says:

We tend to put people above us, and that’s just not true, you know? So we can equalize our self with others, for starters, which is a core tenet of Buddhism. We’re all the same. We all have one unit of self worth. No one’s better than anybody else. So as we equalize, then we can exchange.

And when we exchange ourself with others, and I do this all the time in business, we have a new tool. If someone is mean or challenging, it’s just because they’re in pain. And so you think, “OK, when have I been in pain before.” OK yes, I’ve been in devastating pain before. That’s possibly what they’re going through. And when we can exchange our pain for their pain, we can then talk to them far more effectively.

For many more insights and actionable tips, make sure to read the full transcript of Christine’s Social Capitalist Interview here.

Mini Mission Monday

The year end wrap-up, close-out, get ready to gear-up is upon us. Out with the old, in with the new.

Even if you aren’t planning to make any big changes career-wise any time soon, having an up-to-date CV in the can is a great way to make sure you are taking credit for your accomplishments and ready for any opportunities that come along.

Your Mission: Take an hour today to review your resume and make sure it is up-to-date and as tight as it can be. Make sure to quantify your accomplishments.  Toot your horn. Take credit for what you have done.

Extra Credit:  Anything you wish you could put on there?  Write it down as a goal for next year and start working on a plan to achieve it.  Instant resolution!